Comments on: The Purpose of Hatred! http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/ It's more wonderful than you can imagine! Wed, 07 Jan 2009 19:37:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.2 By: Jennifer http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2272 Jennifer Thu, 27 Mar 2008 18:15:38 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2272 Hi Michelle Your right about what you say. People are funny for many it's all about them and their pleasures which is sad. But they will reap the consquense of their actions sooner or later. All we can do is change us for the better. I am so glad things are better for you and your son Take care Jenn Hi Michelle
Your right about what you say.
People are funny for many it’s all about them and their pleasures which is sad.
But they will reap the consquense of their actions sooner or later.
All we can do is change us for the better.
I am so glad things are better for you and your son
Take care
Jenn

]]> By: Michelle http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2267 Michelle Thu, 27 Mar 2008 06:40:10 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2267 Thanks Jennifer. I think that it is his (the sperm donor's) loss and i do not feel sorry for him making poor choices in his life. He knows he is doing hurtful things but he does not care. So that is his perogative. I am glad he is gone because life is much more peaceful for me and my son Thanks Jennifer. I think that it is his (the sperm donor’s) loss and i do not feel sorry for him making poor choices in his life. He knows he is doing hurtful things but he does not care. So that is his perogative. I am glad he is gone because life is much more peaceful for me and my son

]]> By: Jennifer http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2265 Jennifer Wed, 26 Mar 2008 15:13:49 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2265 Michelle I can totally relate to you. I just came out of a situation that left me wanting to hate and it was hard. One moment I wanted to hate the next I didn't I kept looking at myself saying I am no better but I know that through it all God loved me no matter what. It's a hard thing not to hate someone when they hurt us deeply and when you find out you are disposable to them. But through it all there are lessons learnt and one that I learnt is to go throught the emotions and trust God's love for me. I know many times people make excuses we are only human and they seem to use this as an excuse for there choices. But the only thing we can do is to go throught the pain and learn and allow God to do what needs to be worked in us. People will always do what they want. His Grace is Sufficuent Michelle
I can totally relate to you.
I just came out of a situation that left me wanting to hate and it was hard.
One moment I wanted to hate the next I didn’t I kept looking at myself saying I am no better but I know that through it all God loved me no matter what.
It’s a hard thing not to hate someone when they hurt us deeply and when you find out you are disposable to them.
But through it all there are lessons learnt and one that I learnt is to go throught the emotions and trust God’s love for me.
I know many times people make excuses we are only human and they seem to use this as an excuse for there choices.
But the only thing we can do is to go throught the pain and learn and allow God to do what needs to be worked in us.
People will always do what they want.
His Grace is Sufficuent

]]> By: Cliff http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2249 Cliff Mon, 24 Mar 2008 12:29:47 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2249 Connie, You did not flunk. There is no flunking in the perfect process of life that we all are journeying on. I agree that finding grace filled ways to deal with these types of things is our best choice, but regardless of our choices I beleive God will ultimately teach us what we need to learn for whatever is next. I guess my main point of all this is the absolute trust that we can have even in the chapters of our life that we don't begin to understand. I write this to help those who have endured the kinds of pain that never completely goes away. For those people the best hope is in knowing that in every garden there are weeds that keep coming up and yet we must always focus on the abundance of beauty. And even the weeds have their purpose or they wouldn't have been allowed. Abraham hoped against all hope or in other words he chose to believe in God even in the midtz of all the evidence that God was not to be trusted. So, when things come into my life that seem to contradict all that is good I will still trust in the Goodness of God. Connie, You did not flunk. There is no flunking in the perfect process of life that we all are journeying on. I agree that finding grace filled ways to deal with these types of things is our best choice, but regardless of our choices I beleive God will ultimately teach us what we need to learn for whatever is next. I guess my main point of all this is the absolute trust that we can have even in the chapters of our life that we don’t begin to understand. I write this to help those who have endured the kinds of pain that never completely goes away. For those people the best hope is in knowing that in every garden there are weeds that keep coming up and yet we must always focus on the abundance of beauty. And even the weeds have their purpose or they wouldn’t have been allowed.

Abraham hoped against all hope or in other words he chose to believe in God even in the midtz of all the evidence that God was not to be trusted.
So, when things come into my life that seem to contradict all that is good I will still trust in the Goodness of God.

]]> By: Connie Lard http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2248 Connie Lard Sun, 23 Mar 2008 21:53:49 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2248 Hope I'm not monopolizing the conversation here, and if this is too much off-topic, let me know. I currently have a problem with hatred in the other direction, that is, someone hates (or at least seems to hate) me. I found it necessary to intervene in a situation on behalf of someone who is no longer able to draw healthy boundaries for herself due to declining mental abilities. The person who was taking advantage of her is, understandably, very angry with me, as I am blocking her from getting what she wants. Looking back, perhaps I should have handled things differently, but I did the best I could at the time. I am left feeling that I did what I needed to do to take care of this other person, but maybe should have done it in a different way, though I don't know how else it could have been done. I remember the post about seeing perfection in Hitler, and I get the premise that underneath the flawed humanity is a perfect being created by God. I really do get that, but still we have situations to deal with all the time involving people who aren't acting on their perfection (including me, of course). So, when these kind of situations come up, what are some grace-filled ways to deal with them? (I'm pretty sure I flunked in the grace-filled category during this situation that I'm talking about.) Hope I’m not monopolizing the conversation here, and if this is too much off-topic, let me know. I currently have a problem with hatred in the other direction, that is, someone hates (or at least seems to hate) me. I found it necessary to intervene in a situation on behalf of someone who is no longer able to draw healthy boundaries for herself due to declining mental abilities. The person who was taking advantage of her is, understandably, very angry with me, as I am blocking her from getting what she wants. Looking back, perhaps I should have handled things differently, but I did the best I could at the time. I am left feeling that I did what I needed to do to take care of this other person, but maybe should have done it in a different way, though I don’t know how else it could have been done.

I remember the post about seeing perfection in Hitler, and I get the premise that underneath the flawed humanity is a perfect being created by God. I really do get that, but still we have situations to deal with all the time involving people who aren’t acting on their perfection (including me, of course). So, when these kind of situations come up, what are some grace-filled ways to deal with them? (I’m pretty sure I flunked in the grace-filled category during this situation that I’m talking about.)

]]> By: Connie Lard http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2247 Connie Lard Sun, 23 Mar 2008 21:22:58 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2247 I can't speak for what is best for anyone else, but for me, it's been best to be able to let go of the bitterness I once felt toward my ex-husband (who left me and our two sons for a younger woman). Took awhile, but I can now say honestly that I do not hate him. In fact, I feel sad for him that he was the kind of person that could do something like that. He must have been very empty inside. I pray that he will not do that to his present wife (who happens to be the woman he left me for) and their two kids. People grow and change, and I would like to think that he is different now. (Mind you, it's been a number of years since all that happened to me and there has been a lot of water under the bridge since then.) I can’t speak for what is best for anyone else, but for me, it’s been best to be able to let go of the bitterness I once felt toward my ex-husband (who left me and our two sons for a younger woman). Took awhile, but I can now say honestly that I do not hate him. In fact, I feel sad for him that he was the kind of person that could do something like that. He must have been very empty inside. I pray that he will not do that to his present wife (who happens to be the woman he left me for) and their two kids. People grow and change, and I would like to think that he is different now. (Mind you, it’s been a number of years since all that happened to me and there has been a lot of water under the bridge since then.)

]]> By: Cliff http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2244 Cliff Sat, 22 Mar 2008 22:26:23 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2244 Good advice Geo. I certainly do not advocate holding on to hatred, but at the same time pretending is also just as dangerous. As you said, "Life is like an onion and it has many peels and layers until the day we all stand in the presence of the ONE who brought us here and ALL things from this life will make sense." Good advice Geo. I certainly do not advocate holding on to hatred, but at the same time pretending is also just as dangerous. As you said,
“Life is like an onion and it has many peels and layers until the day we all stand in the presence of the ONE who brought us here and ALL things from this life will make sense.”

]]> By: Michelle http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2242 Michelle Sat, 22 Mar 2008 20:39:31 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2242 You guys are right. I was always taught that it is wrong to hate people. But funny how it came from a church who condemned everyone else to hell. I will always hate this guy, no doubt. This kind of behavior will never be acceptable to me. I like to think of myself as the kind of person who is accepting of others, though, which makes that a little tough for me. I heard on tv one time, someone saying about a famous divorced couple, that you should never hate your ex more than you love your kids. I think I should never hate anything more than I love my son. And I realize it is ok to hate somebody if I have a right reason for it You guys are right. I was always taught that it is wrong to hate people. But funny how it came from a church who condemned everyone else to hell. I will always hate this guy, no doubt. This kind of behavior will never be acceptable to me. I like to think of myself as the kind of person who is accepting of others, though, which makes that a little tough for me.

I heard on tv one time, someone saying about a famous divorced couple, that you should never hate your ex more than you love your kids. I think I should never hate anything more than I love my son. And I realize it is ok to hate somebody if I have a right reason for it

]]> By: geo http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2241 geo Sat, 22 Mar 2008 18:47:18 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2241 Michelle & Cliff Not only is it okay to not like him, it is okay to HATE him! And when you are done hating him that will be that. Only don't let that hate consume your every thought or decision. When it comes either daily or for time to time embrace it and hold it till it is time to let it go again. Life is like an onion and it has many peels and layers until the day we all stand in the presence of the ONE who brought us here and ALL things from this life will make sense. Peace Geo Michelle & Cliff
Not only is it okay to not like him, it is okay to HATE him!
And when you are done hating him that will be that. Only don’t let that hate consume your every thought or decision. When it comes either daily or for time to time embrace it and hold it till it is time to let it go again. Life is like an onion and it has many peels and layers until the day we all stand in the presence of the ONE who brought us here and ALL things from this life will make sense.

Peace
Geo

]]> By: Cliff http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2240 Cliff Sat, 22 Mar 2008 12:17:49 +0000 http://boldgrace.com/2008/03/21/the-purpose-of-hatred/#comment-2240 Thanks for sharing that Michelle. I must believe we are all on this journey for a far greater purpose then we can even imagine and what you went through changed you to the core. I am also glad you got a beautiful son out of it all. And by the way.....it really is OK to not like your exboyfriend. Thanks for sharing that Michelle. I must believe we are all on this journey for a far greater purpose then we can even imagine and what you went through changed you to the core. I am also glad you got a beautiful son out of it all. And by the way…..it really is OK to not like your exboyfriend.

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