Secret Day
Where do I begin? Secret Day…I mean, I CANNOT tell you all of the details or it wouldn’t be a secret, but let me tell you this: EVERYONE SHOULD HAVE A SECRET DAY!
It was me, my two sisters, my sweet SISTER-in-law, my cousins Sarah, Angie, Mandy and UNCLE DOUG and AUNT CINDY!! The night was perfect. We talked about everything under the sun, we danced, laughed a lot, sang every song the best we could, Cried and ate junk food until the next morning! I don’t know about everyone else, but I felt like a kid again! When we were young Uncle Doug and Aunt Cindy would have a secret day. Some of us didn’t get to go so as we have gotten older we’ve given those who got to go a hard time and FINALLY (a million years later) we got the chance to have our own. It was one of the greatest nights of my life.
I can’t speak for everyone, but for me it was a cleansing experience. I got the chance to see my family, get some encouragement, listen to everyone’s perspectives and show our love for each other. We sat by the fire most of the night and the sky was clear and filled with soo many stars. We even saw a couple of shooting stars! We shared gifts and we shared stories. We put Dad’s picture up on the rock wall beside Grandpa’s and then we celebrated their life by singing a song…eventually Tammy ( my oldest sister) and Sarah(dougs daughter) tried to climb the rock wall like we did when we were kids…LOL that was intersting! Me and my sisters had to show Angie and Mandy( my Dad’s oldest brother’s girls) how to DANCE! LOL, I am not quite sure we showed them, but it was fun! AND THE REST…is a secret 
What I recognized this past weekend is that we are all made up of the same feelings. Different circumstances may trigger the feelings, but we all share anger, fear, sadness, happiness, etc… and these feelings cannot be physically touched which tells me that we are spiritually connected to each other by an energy of incredible emotions. I can’t physically touch your anger like I can physically touch your hand. I can wrap my arms around you in hopes to make you FEEL comfort and I wrap my arms around you because WE know that it feels good. These are universal feelings that we all share. We all have them! Is that not incredible?
I wish every family could be like this. It was beautiful and it was a perfect process as Dad would say. I was so connected to my girls that night!! We should always be alert to our connections to each other…those connections are always there…even after we are physically gone!
Mindy the was beauiful my wifes family is have a camp night this weekend it is at my brother inlaws house who just die in May and my wifes other brother just died this morning.I so hope that we have that kind of weekend that you wrote about Mindy.
Love Dan
As the campfire crackled, shooting its brilliant ember towards the heavens. As the flames danced there dance, emitting there beautiful amber glow. The faces of circle of angels was seen by all.
Memories made with love are just not cherished , but never forgotten.
Love Always
Dan,
It was comforting and I so hope you all have the same weekend. It filled me up. I will still feel the pain from my Father’s loss, but I am taking steps in my journey as we all must and moments like that do take you forward not back. I have you and your family in my thoughts.
Love,
Mindy
PS The 2009 winner of the coveted holy grail of love, the “bonnet of peace” is AMANDA! She she will be revered and called the “Goddess of Secret day”. All will hold her in aw, and she will keep that title, till the Captain of Scream sees fit to have his angles dance around the fire of love again.
Love always
Congrats Mandy!! You deserve it
It seems to me that there are so many precious hearts that live in a life of sadness. They can be blessed with family, children, and all the comforts and possession that life can offer. They can do all the things that they were told to do to find happiness, and still be wanting of something.
They will look for that something everywhere, in the new car store with a real estate agent, or in a department store, any many will look in the church of there choice. They will be greeted with with the purest of hearts, by those who have eyes filled with the love of god.
Some will accept blindly all that they are taught without question, others will question, and no longer be meet with eyes fill with the love of god but by eyes glazed to your perfect soul, and willing to exile you if you dont submit to there beliefs.
Its a dilemma that so many have encountered. How do you tell your husband, children, and the ones at your church that that you so believed in, that your in a different place.
I know the answer to that question, Its in the parables of your traditional christian belief. YOU DONT LIE, TO CHILDREN,YOUR HUSBAND, AND EXPESPECIALY YOURSELF.
I have watched over a life time how people find God as they get older. my mother-in law is confined to a nursing home after a stroke she had several weeks ago. She was always associated with the local baptist church but, in the last 20 years it was as she called it her second family. Its her first family that is there for her everyday.
I am very aware that church can offer comfort, there are many that it is there soul comfort, but i also know it can be a source of guilt fear and confusing.
My advice is that if it is a source of guilt fear or confusion, leave it, because it is not what any God that you want to know would want for you.
LOVE ALWAYS
ONE LAST THOUGHT. Then i will leave you to be yourself.
As i meet my father at the hospital in an ambulance, my last words to him was “I’m here for you Dad’, he said “i know you are”.To my brother i said “i have nothing i need to say to you little buddy, he said, “we have had a good life Doug”
We will each have our last thought, our last moment, but its not that one that is important. Its your next thought, your next moment.
Will your last breath be released with excited anticipation, or fear of what you cant feel sure of?
Sleep well, live for the next moment, your last one is in the arms of God.
Love always
“The elderly learn from the young that life goes on, that creation keeps creating. The young learn from the elderly that life is about more than titles and careers, that someday we shall each be only what we are and no more. Then, we will all look back on our relationships with God, with our selves, and with others as the only lasting mark of our humanity.”
(Joan Chittister, Wisdom Distilled from the Daily)
“Hey, ain’t it good to know that you’ve got a friend?
People can be so cold.
They’ll hurt you and desert you.
Well they’ll take your soul if you let them.
Oh yeah, but don’t you let them.
You just call out my name,
and you know wherever I am
I’ll come running to see you again.
Oh babe, don’t you know that,
Winter, spring, summer or fall,
Hey now, all you’ve go to do is call.
Lord, I’ll be there, yes I will.
You’ve got a friend.”
-James Taylor
You are so right Uncle Doug, the people that tell you at church, “when you see a fellow member struggling or their attendance drops off, you should call and encourage them”, I have yet to receive that from one person. I don’t want or need that phone call or encouragment. My first family has given me alot of the strength that I need right now. Saturday night was one night I will always remember. I accept the gift of the “bonnet of peace” with honor and will try to live up to the title of “Goddess of Secret Day”…..Oh whatever…. YES!! I won!! I love you all so much!
Can a blind man see the radian’s of the universe, can a man with no ears hear the whisper of a soft breeze at the end of time, can a man with no hands feel the touch of perfect love, can a man with no legs walk to the end of his kingdom, can a man with no tongue taste the nectar of life, can a man without a nose smell the beauty of eternal life.
IF JESUS WAS SITING BESIDE YOU WOULD YOU KNOW IT?
LOVE ALWAYS
What little i know of Jesus, it would seem to me, that he would have been thought by many to be crazy, weird, and in some cases by some dangerous, in his time.
In today’s life his family would have probably kicked him out of the house. The religious leaders and political ones would have abandoned him, some social leaders would have seen him as criminal.
We all know people like this. We say they dance to a different drummer, and because there different we wont embrace them. I am not in anyway suggesting that that you should embrace a crazy weird social deviant, but i am saying you should love them.
Jesus was also poetic , spiritual and charismatic, so remember the beauty of mankind is part of all of us.
Love alawys
My last thought tonight will be my first thought this morning. As Stormy cat ran figure eights between my feet, as i feed ole charlie dog, and rubbed the ears of MC(meow cat), I thought what can i do so no creature feels fear. My thoughts were not of animal but of you, my last thoughts tonight will be that you know, you are precious, that you are perfect, that you are saved, and you are so loved.
love always
Doug,
Your thoughts are beautiful. I am so proud to be your niece. I love you forever!
awesome! THANKS!
P.S. I LOVE YOU!
This was an awesome post!!! I LOVE times like these when families get together and there is nothing “formal” about it….you come just to be there and talk, laugh, cry……Its some of the most treasured and FEW childhood memories that I have.
Thank you for sharing……I am sure that Cliff enjoyed being there as well….you know that he likes to make himself “noticed” and I truly believe that your laughter that evening was an echo of his……..
Love to all!!
“Munchkin”
I’ve been out of pocket a few days and am just now reading this. I absolutley LOVE this idea. istm, though, that this could only work with a family such as yours, one that has no judgement or condemnation, only understanding and love. You are truely very, very blessed.